What are Reciprocal Kiddushin/Kiddushin Hadadiyim?

Kiddushin Hadadiyim: The mutual act of two people designating each other as partners for the sake of expressing love and holiness and entering together into a marriage covenant.

Kiddushin Hadadiyim is a reconceptualization and adaptation of the mishnaic term kiddushin used to refer to an egalitarian Jewish wedding ceremony and its accompanying ketubah which offer an alternate system, in accordance with the laws of the Torah, which exemplifies a traditional Talmudic partnership that befits the modern social reality of marriage and obviates iggun.

Click Here to read Rabba Nechama’s full Kiddushin Hadadiyim Ceremony and Ketubah with an Intro and an analysis of her research.
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Excerpt from Kiddushin Hadadiyim Wedding Ceremony…

האם רצונכם, שניכם, לקחת על עצמכם את התנאים המוזכרים בכְּתוּבָּה הזה כחוזה הדדי בין שניכם ולהקים יחד משק בית בקרב ישראל לשם הבעת אהבה וקדושה בברית נישואין? 

Is it the wish of both of you to take upon yourselves the terms mentioned in this Ketubah as a mutual contract between the two of you, and to establish together a household amongst Israel for the sake of expressing love and holiness in a marriage covenant?

Excerpt from the Reciprocal Kiddushin Ketubah …